Zinda hoon mein... Aaj ke liye!
Not knowing what is coming next and what to expect can make one feel very unstable and out of sync with life. The trick here is to cover the basics. What ever happens, whatever or whoever the day may bring, at least the basics are taken care of.
I love the home that seem to be a centre of peace in this chaotic life. My aunty had such a household. Actually they were with four people. But every family member (even the elders) used to gather at her home. So at any given moment her household grew from 4 to 16. Every sibling and their kids that lived abroad not only visited but stayed at her home. And not once did her husband complain, because she managed everything so well.
Sure she had her own army of helpers who had their own timings and my aunt knew and balanced them by heart. She had set times for breakfast, lunch and dinner. So every one even the visitors knew when to come and what to expect.She made sure that all clothes were washed and ironed right after use. Bags were packed the evening before, and homework done before dinner. Even though she could afford it, she didn't have tuiton for her kids, they did their homework themselves.
Our holidays spent at her home were truly relaxing and we felt welcome and loved.
If you want the same calm feelings in your home and lives:Do it now! At first you and your family will need to adjust. But it works!
Simple things make a great start like:
- Iron your clothes today for tomorrow when there is electricity
- Have a family calender and post your activity for tomorrow on it
- Have fixed timings for the most important moments of your day: Waking, eating, sleeping.
- Save 100 rupees today, and put them away for a rainy day.
- Spend 10 minutes a day talking about life with your kids.
Inshallah you will feel the change of fiza in your homes. The members in your household will be happier and more relaxed!
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